"I think his mum appreciated being able to see photos of him with friends because otherwise that would have been a part of his life she didn't know about," Emily continued. I used mine so she could see his profile and photos," Emily told Mashable. "His mum unfortunately wasn't friends with him on Facebook and because of privacy settings at the time, Facebook wouldn't allow access into his account. Emily (who just wanted to give her first name) would go around to his parents' house so they could access their son's Facebook page using her account. When care worker Emily's ex-boyfriend passed away suddenly while working abroad, Facebook played a considerable role in helping his mum grieve. "How was I to know that green little dot on Facebook Messenger would never come up again? And that I wouldn’t ever get a Twitter notification?" Having used Facebook as her main means of communicating with her friend, the "huge absence" of messages or status updates is extremely poignant. For her, facing constant reminders and memories hasn't been helpful in the grieving process. Miah says she is finding social media is both a friend and an enemy in the grieving process. "How was I to know that green little dot on Facebook Messenger would never come up again?" Nice to see people celebrated and appreciated the things he did for them," says Miah. It was nice to see that people really appreciated him. I felt very emotional when I read it all. And she watched as hundreds of people wrote messages on her friend's wall. Miah created a Facebook album of memories that she and her friend had shared. "Yesterday I just sat and read through all of our messages and thought how could I not understand what he was trying to say? You never realise what your last words to someone are," Miah continued. I question and judge everything I ever did and try to piece everything together," said Miah.
I look back on the day things happened and wonder why didn’t I do anything about it. "I look back through old photos, messages, memories. For this reason, looking through his Facebook profile became a way for Miah to look back over messages and understand what he had been going through. Miah's best friend died by suicide after struggling with mental illness.
But, while it supported me, it also made things worse," Miah told Mashable. "For me Facebook also had a massive impact as a support mechanism. I didn’t want to find out online," Miah told Mashable. "No one wants to learn that their friend passed away on social media. Miah found out about her friend's death on Facebook - something which made the news even harder to bear. Social media is both a friend and an enemyĪfter activist Tamanna Miah's best friend died, she found social media played a significant, yet complex role in her ordeal. "It feels reassuring, like I'm still able to remember her and let her know I'm thinking about her," she continued. "It feels reassuring, like I'm still able to remember her and let her know I'm thinking about her." Sometimes I still find myself on her profile having a click through photos, or posts her friends have left," says Walton-Stoev. "Straight after it all happened I wrote on Hester's wall, and even sent a message to her at one point when I was really sad. Walton-Stoev told Mashable that her friend Hester died after taking the unclassified liquid party drug GBL. Lifestyle blogger Luisa-Christie Walton-Stoev found Facebook to be a reassuring and helpful space when her friend passed away. Mashable talked to three people who've used social media to cope with loss to find out whether taking your grief online is a help or a hindrance. How I helped my father grieve when his mother died
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